Here Are 7 Effective Ways On How You Can Raise Resilient Kids

November 19, 2017

What do I need to raise resilient kids?

You may think that kids always have it easy in life and that they're always stress-free. While that is true most of the time, growing up they are often faced with unfamiliar and tough choices.  It is our duty to know ways to effectively raise resilient kids. Kids that will go on despite any roadblocks.

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With the world changing extra fast and the technology at their disposal, our kids will always be faced with a lot of choices. Choices that may sometimes lead them to disappointment and frustration. Despite these failures, we want our kids to continue growing and pushing in life. We may not always be by their side and that's the hard reality but, we only hope that when it's time for them to let go, we can be certain that they will not fall down and they will always keep coming back up. So while they're still young, here are some tips on how you can raise resilient kids.

You make mistakes and show them that it's okay

As a young parent, you'll have plenty of room for mistakes and bad decisions. Make mistakes but, make sure to learn from them. Pick yourself up after a bad decision and tell yourself that everything is going to be okay.

You want to make these mistakes so that your kids can learn from them too. Talk to them about these mistakes, explain what you did and how you recovered from it. Letting your kids know that you make mistakes too is something they'll admire about you. It lets them know that they too will make mistakes and that no matter what happens they will still be okay and you'll still be proud of them.

You continue to experience things

You might be thinking that now that you're a parent, you'll stop having a life. That's not the case. Take me for example, I have achieved so many things in the span of 2 years than what I had in the last 25 years of my life. In those 2 years, I had a child.

My family kept me motivated and inspired to push myself to greater opportunities. If it wasn't for them, I'd still be the same person I was 2 years ago. Having a family or a child should not prevent you from doing the things you love. On the contrary, this should add more motivation for you. Continue experiencing new things. Experience things on your own, with your partner and with your child.

Showing your child that experiences make for a happy and fruitful life will not only make him resilient but, it will keep him interested in life.

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You learn to accept things

I grew up without my parents. While I may still have a few unanswered questions, I've learned to accept the things as they are. Learning to accept and love yourself in the process is what your kids need to learn. You have to let them know that life sometimes give you a dead end and that is all there is to it, an end.

You accept hate in a healthy way

Show them that you can't please everyone. People will throw hate at you just because they can. People will criticize you for the smallest things. You should teach them that allowing yourself to feel is part of the process. But, it is what they do after that determines the type of person that they are.

Let your kids know that hate exists in this world and that no matter how you shelter them from it, it will find its way to them. We don't want our kids breaking down at the first sign of hate, do we? We prepare them for the reality of life. Let's all raise resilient kids who will get back up in the face of adversity.

You set goals with your family

As a starting family, you'll have a lot of goals and dreams. And the best way to achieve these goals is by sharing it with your family

My girlfriend and I talk about our goals all the time. We even have a financial plan for the coming year. We talk about goals and dreams. No matter how silly or impossible they may sound, we talk about them.

Show your kids that making goals are important. Tell them that these goals are what will push them up when life fails them. Include them when talking about your plans. It's always refreshing to hear a different point-of-view once in a while.

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You are always thankful

You never forget to say thank you. When eating in a restaurant, you say "thank you". When asking your kid to do something for you, you say "thank you". When someone compliments you, you say "thank you".

It isn't just about being courteous, it's about being grateful. Being grateful for people. Being grateful for the things that you have. Being grateful for the life that you have. No matter how small, practice gratitude. Teach your kids to be thankful - for it will make them appreciate how big their life is, no matter what happens

You choose the people you surround yourself with

If you're a new parent, you should start picking out the people you want to stay in your life. Select the those that will have a good influence on you and your family. Read about inspiring and motivating people. Surround yourself with friends and family who uplifts you.

Your kids will eventually be surrounded by the same people you pick. Early in their years, you want your child seeing you surrounded by great and inspiring people. So when it's his time to make friends, you'll trust that he's going to make the right choices.


You won't always be there to hold their hands. They will choose a different path from what you originally planned for them. They will definitely fail at some point. And that's all part of the process, it's called growing up. You experienced the same thing but, look how well you survived. Let's all do our best to raise resilient kids. Kids that are self-sustaining, independent and well rounded. We need more of those kids now, more than ever.

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