Parenting Life Series: Ivan Jose of Ivan+Khris’ Travels

February 14, 2019

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In this Parenting Life Series entry, we'll be learning what the parenting world is like for the Jose family. Ivan and Khris love two things, traveling and eating. In their blog, they talk about their love for traveling and their parenting journey.

What I love about them is that they're easily relatable. They both have day jobs just like any other parents out there and they also struggle with the things ordinary parents struggle with. The two has been married since 2014 and they have an adorable son!

Name: Ivan Jose
Number and age of children: One child, 9 months old
Favorite parenting quote:

“The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become.” by author Eileen Kennedy-Moore

Short Bio:

Ivan Jose has a full-time office job. He started blogging more than 10 years ago as a hobby. He shares stories about his travels with his wife through his blog, Ivan+Khris’ Travels. Now that they have a child, he plans to share their parenting journey and adventures in his blog. He believes in creating happy memories with his family because they will treasure it for life.

1. How would you describe your parenting style?

I am a new father to a baby boy, Miguel, who is less than a year old. As such, I have yet to really apply my own parenting style, so to speak. At this stage, everything else is routinary such as playtime, feeding time, bedtime, and the like.

However, I envision myself to be strict when it comes to instilling discipline to my child. I want to be considered as a friend, sort of a barkada, whom my child would be comfortable in confiding his thoughts and feelings with. I want to keep an open line of communication at home; I want my child to be comfortable in expressing his thoughts as long as they are constructive. Ultimately, I would like to be respected and not feared.

I am also aware that my child is his own person, completely unique and different from me. He may have inherited some traits from me and his mother but that’s as far as it goes. I do not think it is wise to pressure him to be entirely my copy or achieve things that I have accomplished.

2. What values would you want to pass on to your kids?

I would like to pass on the same values that were instilled to me by my parents:

Strive for uniqueness

I would tell my child to be proud of who he is and that he should strive for uniqueness and not for conformity. That is what would make him truly happy.

When he grows up, I would like him to choose a career that he truly loves not because it is what society dictates to be correct or lucrative. Success is not defined by money alone but the sense of fulfillment and contentment that one gets out of his craft.

When he has the means, he should do the things that make him happy as long as they contribute to his growth as a person.

Be street smart

Gone are the days when being academically smart alone is the only norm when it comes to being intelligent. Being street smart allows you to handle real-life situations without easily succumbing to pressure. It calls forth quick thinking and finding creative ways in surpassing challenges as well as in dealing with difficult people.

Be good to other people

Treat people with utmost respect and fairness at all times. That way, you would also be accorded with respect. Respect is earned, not demanded from other people.

Be humble

Do not brag, but do not put yourself down. Let your achievements speak for themselves.

Be responsible for your actions

I also believe that we only have ourselves to blame for whatever adverse effect our actions might have. Think before you act. If our decisions turn for the worse, we should own up on our mistakes

3. What do you enjoy most about being a father?

Personally, being a new dad gave me a refreshed outlook in life and a renewed vigor to achieve more. I also enjoy seeing the little milestones that my son achieves. Having a baby is like witnessing a miracle slowly unfurl before your very eyes.

Taking care of my son also means that I have to give him my full attention. That means being away from my phone and the internet which I completely appreciate. I enjoy our little playtimes because it provides a welcome distraction from office stress and pressure. Really, the best way to spend time is with the people you love!

4. How do you encourage a close relationship with your child/children?

My wife and I both have an office job but we make sure that we spend a lot of time with Miguel when we get home and, most especially, on weekends. Seeing the smile on his face when we arrive home is priceless.

On weeknights, after work, my wife and I are very hands-on when it comes to feeding Miguel and in changing his clothes and diaper. We also make sure to have a little playtime before we put him to bed. We still wake up in the middle of the night to make a bottle of milk and feed Miguel but that is not as frequently as in the previous months. Still, I treat it as bonding time.

When our baby grows older, what I would like to do is to keep an open communication with him. When he begins schooling, I will help him out with school work. When we are at home, I will ask him what he did at school, if he has new friends or how his classmates behaved in the classroom. I will ask for his opinion about his lessons and his teachers and encourage him to speak freely. Of course, it goes without saying that I will explain to him that he should always choose his words wisely.

On another note, I am also aware of the fact that my child will not always be in a mood to talk and that is okay. I will give him time to be by himself and not force him to talk to me when he is not yet ready.

5. What challenges have you encountered as a parent and how did/do you deal with
it?

Aside from lack of sleep, we have not had much of a challenge yet since Miguel is still small. However, we had a bit of a stumbling block when Miguel’s grandparents began questioning some of the things that we did like introducing him to some solid food at 6 or 7 months old as recommended by his pediatrician.

Our parents are from another era. The things that they know of and the practices that they have been used to are much different from the current norm. Thus, instead of being defensive, patiently listen to them and then explain to them the reason behind certain things. Even if it takes time, they will eventually understand you.

6. What is the best parenting tip or advice can you give to a new parent?

Enjoy every second of your parenting journey. Spend as much time with your kids and create happy memories. Give your 100% attention when you are taking care of your baby. Listen to them attentively when they talk. Babies grow up so fast and before you know it, they are suddenly not dependent on you anymore. The saddest thing in this world is having regrets and yearning to gain back lost time. As such, make the most out of each moment with your family.

If you want to connect with Ivan Jose, you can view their social media pages here:

Blog: www.ivankhristravels.com
FB: Facebook.com/ivanhristravels
IG: Instagram.com/ivankhristravels
Twitter: Twitter.com/travelivankhris

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